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  • My family needs your prayers

    I really need your support right now. My dad is 76 and has always been a very active and healthy man. Exercised regularly, never smoked and hasn't had a drink in years. He had heart surgery on December 12th. A "simple" valve replacement. There were initial complications and what should have been a 4-6 hour surgery turned into 9 hours. Within 3 hours he was back in surgery because of bleeding. Since then it's been one thing after another. He's had a pacemaker and difibrilator (sp?) put in. He's been undergoing dialysis for a while continuously, and now it's almost every day for 4-5 hours. Totally wipes him out. At first he was incredibly bloated but has lost about 50 pounds. Can't seem to shake his fever for more than a day, yet the doctors can't figure out the source of his infection. Removed his gall bladder last week, but there's still an infection. I don't understand why they can't find the source.

    He had a terrible reaction to a couple of the antibiotics and broke out in an awful rash head to toe. The doctors worried the infection had spread to his lungs but after removing a couple hundred cc's of fluid to keep his lungs from collapsing, it's made no difference in his white cell count. For several days following his initial surgery he was completely sedated and non-responsive. But then he started coming around and could respond to us. But then see-sawed back and forth between sedation and awareness. I've been so worried about him being kept so heavily sedated, but the doctors said he fights the breathing tube when he's awake and they don't want him to stress.

    Up until yesterday he always responded to my mom. Even being sedated, his vital signs would soar when mom kissed him or talked to him. But now my mom is worried that he's not really "in there" anymore. She told me last night that if it takes a year or more to get him healthy again, she's up for the fight. But if he's not in there anymore she doesn't want to keep him alive with machines. Mom and dad talked about it in length before he went into the hospital and I know she wants to honor his wishes.

    This is taking such a toll on all of us, but especially my mom. She spent so many hours in the hospital caring for my grandmother who finally lost her battle with cancer this past August. And now to be back in the hospital with my dad is just so much to handle. She said with my grandmother it was different because Grandma told her she was ready to go home (with hospice care) and she only held on for another two days, so it was the right time. But this situation with my dad is entirely different. She's going to arrange a sit-down meeting with ALL of his doctors but I don't know how soon that will happen.

    I believe in the power of prayer. If it's time for my daddy to go, then I'll understand and trust that it's right. But if there's still a chance, I know our prayers and healing energy can make a difference. Thanks for reading this and letting me share.


  • #2
    Thoughts and prayers

    I'm so sorry to hear about your familys struggle. Praying that God will bring strength to your family during this difficult time and watch over your father with his loving care.


    • #3
      I'm so sorry for all your going through. Try to keep strong. You and your family will be in my prayers.


      • #4
        Stay strong and I will be thinking of you and your family.


        • #5
          So sorry to hear about your dad. My thoughts and prayers to you and your family.


          • #6

            I'll definitely keep you and your family in my prayers. I sure hope your father takes a turn for the better real soon. Try to keep strong ... your mother really needs you at a time like this.

            Please keep us updated on your father's progress.



            • #7
              Stacey - so sorry for your struggles. I will pray for the absolute best possible outcome for your Dad, and for strength and comfort for you and your Mom.


              • #8
                What a difficult time you and your family are going through. I am so sorry. I hope your family can support each other and keep a strong bond no matter what happens. My prayers are with you all.
                don't find yourself up a creek without a poodle.


                • #9
                  Stacey, I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. I will keep your whole family in prayer.


                  • #10
                    I'm really sorry !, I will send to you and your family Tons of positive energy and my best wishes for a prompt recovery.


                    • #11
                      We are here for you. Hang in there and keep your chin up. We will be praying for you and your family.


                      • #12
                        I can't imagine what you're going through. I'm sorry this has to be now, (it's never a good time, is it?).

                        You'll make it through, try to keep your thoughts positive, as best you can. This too shall pass.

                        Tammy in Utah
                        Groomers Helper Affiliate


                        • #13
                          Reading these posts, I can absolutely feel the love coming from each of you. Thank you all so very much! Tonight at the hospital I told my mom I had finally reached out to y'all and I knew there would be even more prayers for Dad. It means so much to me and my family.

                          The doctors stopped his sedation yesterday morning and then prescribed Ritalin (sp?) late yesterday. No response until late this afternoon. He opened his eyes just a little and moved his head when my mom started talking to him and stroking his head. I think I even saw a small smile trying to come through. It brought my mom to tears and I could see the relief washing over her.

                          We're very fortunate to have a lot of support in our family. My sister and I are doing everything we can to ease Mom's burden. We're strong women and I know no matter what the final outcome from all of this, we'll be okay. I feel so much better after seeing Dad tonight. I will keep you posted on his progress.

                          With love,


                          • #14
                            Originally posted by seleste View Post
                            Reading these posts, I can absolutely feel the love coming from each of you.
                            I'm new to this group, and one of wonderful things I've already noticed about this message board is how supportive you all are of one another. It's heartwarming! My thoughts and prayers are with your family too, Stacey.

                            Sheri B.


                            • #15
                              I'm glad

                              there is improvement. Prayers are coming for him from all over the world.

                              I have a dog show friend who's husband had serious heart lung surgery. This was Dec 13, 2006, the day after your Father. He was "not home" for weeks. Then he had improvement, but still would slip in and out of rational thinking. He'd tell his wife he didn't know why she did that to him or be not aware of who friends were or where he was. Then he made some progress starting with a good family friend that he was delighted to see. His infection, of unknown source, got better. He started sitting up, then standing, then walking with a walker. Soon a dinner out. Well this Monday he gets to go home. Dog show people all over the country were praying for him. Mostly wanted to point out how he was not mentally there at all for quite awhile. Wishing your Dad a good recovery too.
                              Money will buy you a pretty good dog but it won't buy the wag of it's tail.