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Psycho callers: my problem! O/T
Ok Ladies and Gents,
Here is my problem with a caller:
There is a business woman near me that offered to help me when I started my business. She is a well known business woman and has a lot of experience with pets & owners. So her offer was accepted and I told her if I had any questions I would contact her and I thanked her.
Well, this lady has gone from being there to help if I needed it, to trying to control everything to do with my house, my business and even me. This has gotten out of hand.
She has been calling me non stop. 5 times yesterday within a few hours, and today I went out to pick up my shop sign only to find that there were 4 messages on my machine when I got home, each was a message of at least 5 minutes long and the longest was about 10 minutes. She knew I was going out, and she knows my husband is asleep in the day because he works nights, yet she calls non stop and this has been going on for about 2 weeks now!
I want a nice clean look for the front of my house, I have huge windows in the front porch, and I went with white mini blinds on all of them, stenciled a few paw prints on the glass and got some dog bone signs with cute sayings on them that form a kind of valance ....and my sign is in the middle window, it was professionally made, white background and I have had many compliments on it today.
Unfortunately, she does not like it, and didn't like it from the minute I told her in an e-mail what my plan was, after she had told me she was going to make me curtains for the windows and give me some stuffed dogs...so I sent her an e-mail thanking her for her thoughts on the porch, however I said I wanted a clean look and would be buying mini blinds and doing a few stencils and the sign, that was all I wanted. Well, I got message after message about how she will make me a fabric doghouse, and I don't want blinds, and a whole lot of other things...it was such a messed up message that I actually asked someone from this forum to call me so I could play it for her to get her thoughts on the call!
She was talking about me doing a doggies Olympics, and putting dog paws in Plaster of Paris and measuring tails, and giving out medals...She wants me to have fabric this and fabric that, and stuffed dogs everywhere. I am at a loss of what to do.
I can't offend her or I risk taking a huge loss in business, yet I have tried everything I can think of to tell her not to call so much, and that I appreciate her concern, but it is my business, I will make mistakes and I'll learn from them, but I can't take every piece of advice and just go with it. She just doesn't understand that.
I am really not used to this type of person, and I am really getting mad, and stressed, if she was anyone else she would have gotten a smack in the head by now for harassing me this much. I never asked for her help or opinion, she offered and I have only asked her opinion on one thing and that was advertising, what has worked for her, and what would be a waste. I have never asked her opinion on my decor, my shop, my sign, or anything else. She can see my house from her's and has made a point of even telling me the size of my windows, in inches I might add, so I wonder, did she actually came over and measure them! She has told me I spend too much time on my laptop, she see's me on the computer in my living room way to much! She also thinks the message on my phone should be changed and she hates the name I came up with....
Tell me, how does a diplomatic person get out of something like this, because I am far from politically correct or diplomatic! The best idea I could come up with after trying to talk to her, and send her an e-mail hoping she would get it, is now I am thinking I may have to run her over with my car!
Any suggestions are welcome because this is really getting to me, and I have enough worries right now, without being spied on, and being made to second guess every decision I make.
Please, what do I do about this? How can I make it stop?
Stressed-fully yours,
Lisa
Here is my problem with a caller:
There is a business woman near me that offered to help me when I started my business. She is a well known business woman and has a lot of experience with pets & owners. So her offer was accepted and I told her if I had any questions I would contact her and I thanked her.
Well, this lady has gone from being there to help if I needed it, to trying to control everything to do with my house, my business and even me. This has gotten out of hand.
She has been calling me non stop. 5 times yesterday within a few hours, and today I went out to pick up my shop sign only to find that there were 4 messages on my machine when I got home, each was a message of at least 5 minutes long and the longest was about 10 minutes. She knew I was going out, and she knows my husband is asleep in the day because he works nights, yet she calls non stop and this has been going on for about 2 weeks now!
I want a nice clean look for the front of my house, I have huge windows in the front porch, and I went with white mini blinds on all of them, stenciled a few paw prints on the glass and got some dog bone signs with cute sayings on them that form a kind of valance ....and my sign is in the middle window, it was professionally made, white background and I have had many compliments on it today.
Unfortunately, she does not like it, and didn't like it from the minute I told her in an e-mail what my plan was, after she had told me she was going to make me curtains for the windows and give me some stuffed dogs...so I sent her an e-mail thanking her for her thoughts on the porch, however I said I wanted a clean look and would be buying mini blinds and doing a few stencils and the sign, that was all I wanted. Well, I got message after message about how she will make me a fabric doghouse, and I don't want blinds, and a whole lot of other things...it was such a messed up message that I actually asked someone from this forum to call me so I could play it for her to get her thoughts on the call!
She was talking about me doing a doggies Olympics, and putting dog paws in Plaster of Paris and measuring tails, and giving out medals...She wants me to have fabric this and fabric that, and stuffed dogs everywhere. I am at a loss of what to do.
I can't offend her or I risk taking a huge loss in business, yet I have tried everything I can think of to tell her not to call so much, and that I appreciate her concern, but it is my business, I will make mistakes and I'll learn from them, but I can't take every piece of advice and just go with it. She just doesn't understand that.
I am really not used to this type of person, and I am really getting mad, and stressed, if she was anyone else she would have gotten a smack in the head by now for harassing me this much. I never asked for her help or opinion, she offered and I have only asked her opinion on one thing and that was advertising, what has worked for her, and what would be a waste. I have never asked her opinion on my decor, my shop, my sign, or anything else. She can see my house from her's and has made a point of even telling me the size of my windows, in inches I might add, so I wonder, did she actually came over and measure them! She has told me I spend too much time on my laptop, she see's me on the computer in my living room way to much! She also thinks the message on my phone should be changed and she hates the name I came up with....
Tell me, how does a diplomatic person get out of something like this, because I am far from politically correct or diplomatic! The best idea I could come up with after trying to talk to her, and send her an e-mail hoping she would get it, is now I am thinking I may have to run her over with my car!
Any suggestions are welcome because this is really getting to me, and I have enough worries right now, without being spied on, and being made to second guess every decision I make.
Please, what do I do about this? How can I make it stop?
Stressed-fully yours,
Lisa
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